Sometimes you may feel hurt, angry, disconnected. In such moments your world tends to fall apart, you lose your focus, you lose your capacity of seeing things clearly. There are times you don’t even realise it and just go with the flow, allowing negative thinking to build up. This can affect relationships, working capacity and even your health state. The tips below are ways to increase your mojo when things don’t go quite well.

So what could you do when unwanted things happen? Maybe you had an argument with someone and your ego wants to be right rather than be happy. Maybe you feel lonely and cannot find anyone to talk to. Maybe you feel something is wrong with you and then start having negative thoughts about your life, your appearance, your status or about the world around you. It is good to be able to identify these situations and the sooner you manage to get out of them, the better for yourself and all others involved.

Such situations can be identified first of all by realising you do not feel happy inside. If things are going well, even if your goals are not yet achieved, you have a sense of fulfilment, you can focus, think positive and do things that make you feel good. In order to know if you are are going towards a positive direction or not, it is good to first check in with your inner state. Am I feeling ok, am I happy inside me? Am I cheerful, am I a good company for myself and others?

If the answer to such questions is no, that means something doesn’t go quite well within. If you can clearly identify what goes wrong, that’s fine. You can just work on that particular issue, find ways to solve it and move on. If ways of solving a known matter don’t come, you can step away from it, take a walk, do something else and know a solution will come at the right moment. But what to do if you cannot know what is going on, you just feel disconnected and cannot point a certain matter or cannot find a way of getting out of that state?

There are some ways things can be made better so that we reach a good result:

  • Take a walk

Walking outside shows you there is a world out there and there are good things in it. Getting fresh air while moving increases the brain chemicals that make you feel at peace. Here we can add some focus on the nature that surrounds us, or the children playing. A better outcome from a walk outside can be obtained if the walk is done in a park or any place where there are trees, plants and birds. If there is a body of water around you can take some time to watch it, connect with it, meditate around it. Water means life, nothing lives without water and being in the presence of water calms the mind.

  • Listen to uplifting music

We all have favourite pieces of music. Some make you feel nostalgic, maybe bring positive or negative memories, but some your favourite music makes you feel strong, focused, powerful. If you feel down, listening to that type of music, even if initially you don’t feel like, will lift you up and help you gain back your focus.

  • Speak to someone very close to you

If you have friends or family members you can totally trust and know they are there for you no matter what, contact them. You may choose to speak about what is bothering you or you can speak about totally different things. This depends on each individual’s preferences. For some of us speaking the matter can bring clarity and solutions, as long as you do it with open mind. For others talking their negative problems puts them even deeper in that state of low energy and in this case it is better to speak about other positive subjects that will distract you from your low mood. This doesn’t mean though that you need to stop looking within and go into denial, but after you lift up your inner state finding positive ways out becomes easier.

 

  • Connect with like-minded people

I know when things go rough in life you have a feeling no one understands you, no one knows, no one cares. This cannot be further from the truth. There are so many others just like you, feeling like you, struggling like you and there are so many who can help with your situation. Either you are grieving the loss of a loved one, go through divorce or a breakup, have financial issues, cannot find your true self, etc, there are materials that can help you and communities you can join. There are so many groups you can join for free or for a financial cost but these communities will show you that you are not alone and you can get ideas for yourself from seeing the story of other people going through the same struggle as you.

  • Find a teacher or a coach

If you understand you have a problem and you don’t know how to get out of it, learn about it. You can learn how to help yourself or you can hire specialised help. No matter what you are going through, you can find someone offering help with your matter, either online or in your community. If you have the time and resources to join an activity in your community, I totally recommend it. Not only it will help you solve your situation, but it will make you go out of the house, move, meet people just like you and even make new friends.

  • Help someone in need

Helping someone doesn’t need to be something big, elaborate to change that person’s life forever. Any little kind gestures you can make are bringing a difference. Even smiling at someone in the bus, helping someone with a disability cross the street or making a compliment to a stranger are all free things we can all do and lift up the energy level in our environment. By helping someone else you will feel fulfilled knowing you did something good, your self-esteem will grow, so will your motivation and positive thinking.

In the end anything you choose to do to lift up your inner state is a huge service you do to yourself.

After all it is known that same old practices are not going to take you to a different outcome, so be the change you want to see around you.

If you wish to receive help from me to improve your inner state, your energy level and solve your issues, please do not hesitate to contact me here. Angel blessings!

Please remember to share this post with anyone who could benefit from reading it.

If you wish to be among the first to know about new materials posted on here, please sign up below.

They say when we heal others we heal ourselves too because light flows through us to the person we want to heal so that light heals us too. They say God gives us people that need to heal the same issues we need to heal ourselves, maybe because God wants us healed too or maybe because we become experts of those issues trying to heal them in ourselves.
What happens though when there is no person coming to be healed and we find ourselves in trouble? How do we heal then? How can we objectively see inside ourselves and take out what no longer serves us? How long do we need to work on it until we reach that light?

971313_687022381355788_3376296546083906316_n

I found myself in this situation for the past weeks. I got myself to the point even doctors could not figure out yet where it comes from. I closed my throat that tight so not even water would go through it. This made me experience all sort of feelings: fear, anxiety, and desperation. I kept asking what the problem is, where it comes from, how and mostly when it will be healed. Doctors are doing their best to help but they can help physical causes and physical damages and they do it great as long as there is a cause of damage they can identify.

 

One thing I know is that our thoughts and beliefs create our reality. If these thoughts are not of love towards ourselves, if we cannot balance giving and receiving, the first to suffer is our energy field. A change in our energy field that lasts long enough will then turn into a physical condition, be it a disease, a disorder, a physical blockage or an allergy. Yes, every physical condition has a mental cause and it takes a lot of inner work to identify and heal it. The benefit of healing the mental cause is that as long as our thoughts are repaired, our energy field restores to normal, the physical condition heals and thought change will prevent our body from creating the same warning again.

 

So here I was, trying to figure out what, why, when while feeling scared and out of balance until I happened to meet one nice old doctor who concluded: my throat has spasms that are created by something else. I felt it as a blessing to still be strong and healthy and at the same time it put me in a state of deep searching. If this is a thing of the mind, what causes it? Talking to this gentleman felt like a revelation, I thought if I created it than I must find a way to get to the root of it.

 

I came home and started to cry tears coming out of my chest, out of my heart. My body screamed: I am enough! I am enough just the way I am! I am perfect in my imperfection! I am a magnificent being and I deserve all the good that comes to me! I am made of love, I am a caring loving person and that’s enough! I am me and nobody else can do a better job at living my life than I do! I am enough and I love and approve myself exactly the way I am!

 

There it was! My revelation, my inner findings, my energetic stuff that made my body shut down from the struggle I was giving it. I wanted to jump into it and heal myself instantly but I have learned healing takes time and Divine time is the perfect time so for a few days I was repeating I am enough and this is not real whenever I was trying to sip water. And it worked most of the times because awareness is the first step in healing. When you find the cause, when you accept it as being what creates the condition, you already took the first step towards healing.

 

Still this was the first step and the second one came with prayers and asking for answers. How did I get there? How did I get to feeling as not being enough? How did I get to feeling I am not good? How did I distant myself from self-love and acceptance? And first I heard one word: overwhelmed. Then I knew, then I acknowledged, then I saw it: I gave the most I could at my day job knowing there were not enough people there and patients need help, I gave the most I could trying to manage home and energy work and my spiritual practice. I had no idea I was overwhelmed and didn’t even notice when I disconnected from myself while pushing my body and mind towards achieving the most I could. I forgot only one person in the world: me. I forgot I need rest, I forgot I need to recharge my batteries in order to continue to function, I forgot that if I am not strong and well, how am I to help others find their way? I forgot to care about my needs and wants.

 

I learned the hard lesson of depleting my energetic potential trying to make others happy. I learned again to take it slowly, one step at a time, one task for one day, one question answered at once and a lot of rest until I am again fully charged. It was reinforced in me something I already knew: every so called problem is in fact a blessing and when things don’t go the way I want I learned to think in fact I have no idea what God saved me from. If my body wouldn’t have given me this warning I would have gone further and maybe create something much worse than I did. If my body wouldn’t have slowed me down maybe I wouldn’t have found my healing path.

 

We take so much for granted believing it will always be there for us, thinking it is our right to have it. In fact all we own is our spirit and all the rest flows from there. We learn to be grateful for our achievements, our possessions, maybe our environment, people in our lives and we may forget at times that every single cell, thing, living being, nature’s creation around us is in fact a gift to be grateful for. This life is given to us for our spiritual growth and each of us has their own journey, their own lessons to learn, their own life to live.

IMG_333761193712991

Today I am grateful for being alive, for being strong, for the air I breath, for the water I drink, for the bed I sleep in, for the birds, grass and flowers in my back yard, for all the people I have ever met because each of them taught me something, for knowing love, compassion, empathy, for each opportunity to learn and grow, for each scar in my heart that made me stronger and shaped who I am today. Today I am simply grateful!

 

Please remember to share this post with anyone who could benefit from reading it.

If you wish to be among the first to know about new materials posted on here, please sign up below.