Sometimes you may feel hurt, angry, disconnected. In such moments your world tends to fall apart, you lose your focus, you lose your capacity of seeing things clearly. There are times you don’t even realise it and just go with the flow, allowing negative thinking to build up. This can affect relationships, working capacity and even your health state. The tips below are ways to increase your mojo when things don’t go quite well.
So what could you do when unwanted things happen? Maybe you had an argument with someone and your ego wants to be right rather than be happy. Maybe you feel lonely and cannot find anyone to talk to. Maybe you feel something is wrong with you and then start having negative thoughts about your life, your appearance, your status or about the world around you. It is good to be able to identify these situations and the sooner you manage to get out of them, the better for yourself and all others involved.
Such situations can be identified first of all by realising you do not feel happy inside. If things are going well, even if your goals are not yet achieved, you have a sense of fulfilment, you can focus, think positive and do things that make you feel good. In order to know if you are are going towards a positive direction or not, it is good to first check in with your inner state. Am I feeling ok, am I happy inside me? Am I cheerful, am I a good company for myself and others?
If the answer to such questions is no, that means something doesn’t go quite well within. If you can clearly identify what goes wrong, that’s fine. You can just work on that particular issue, find ways to solve it and move on. If ways of solving a known matter don’t come, you can step away from it, take a walk, do something else and know a solution will come at the right moment. But what to do if you cannot know what is going on, you just feel disconnected and cannot point a certain matter or cannot find a way of getting out of that state?
There are some ways things can be made better so that we reach a good result:
- Take a walk
Walking outside shows you there is a world out there and there are good things in it. Getting fresh air while moving increases the brain chemicals that make you feel at peace. Here we can add some focus on the nature that surrounds us, or the children playing. A better outcome from a walk outside can be obtained if the walk is done in a park or any place where there are trees, plants and birds. If there is a body of water around you can take some time to watch it, connect with it, meditate around it. Water means life, nothing lives without water and being in the presence of water calms the mind.
- Listen to uplifting music
We all have favourite pieces of music. Some make you feel nostalgic, maybe bring positive or negative memories, but some your favourite music makes you feel strong, focused, powerful. If you feel down, listening to that type of music, even if initially you don’t feel like, will lift you up and help you gain back your focus.
- Speak to someone very close to you
If you have friends or family members you can totally trust and know they are there for you no matter what, contact them. You may choose to speak about what is bothering you or you can speak about totally different things. This depends on each individual’s preferences. For some of us speaking the matter can bring clarity and solutions, as long as you do it with open mind. For others talking their negative problems puts them even deeper in that state of low energy and in this case it is better to speak about other positive subjects that will distract you from your low mood. This doesn’t mean though that you need to stop looking within and go into denial, but after you lift up your inner state finding positive ways out becomes easier.
- Connect with like-minded people
I know when things go rough in life you have a feeling no one understands you, no one knows, no one cares. This cannot be further from the truth. There are so many others just like you, feeling like you, struggling like you and there are so many who can help with your situation. Either you are grieving the loss of a loved one, go through divorce or a breakup, have financial issues, cannot find your true self, etc, there are materials that can help you and communities you can join. There are so many groups you can join for free or for a financial cost but these communities will show you that you are not alone and you can get ideas for yourself from seeing the story of other people going through the same struggle as you.
- Find a teacher or a coach
If you understand you have a problem and you don’t know how to get out of it, learn about it. You can learn how to help yourself or you can hire specialised help. No matter what you are going through, you can find someone offering help with your matter, either online or in your community. If you have the time and resources to join an activity in your community, I totally recommend it. Not only it will help you solve your situation, but it will make you go out of the house, move, meet people just like you and even make new friends.
- Help someone in need
Helping someone doesn’t need to be something big, elaborate to change that person’s life forever. Any little kind gestures you can make are bringing a difference. Even smiling at someone in the bus, helping someone with a disability cross the street or making a compliment to a stranger are all free things we can all do and lift up the energy level in our environment. By helping someone else you will feel fulfilled knowing you did something good, your self-esteem will grow, so will your motivation and positive thinking.
In the end anything you choose to do to lift up your inner state is a huge service you do to yourself.
After all it is known that same old practices are not going to take you to a different outcome, so be the change you want to see around you.
If you wish to receive help from me to improve your inner state, your energy level and solve your issues, please do not hesitate to contact me here. Angel blessings!
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